I had been asked to Wait,
at least i felt so,
But sometimes some-things aren’t meant to happen,
and you just have to LET IT GO.
whether its your latest dream,
or someone you loved,
it needs a bigger heart,
to say BYE to someone/something beloved.
Should i try one more time??,
one more time, Please!
Its everything to me,
without it ,there is a dis-ease.
Oh yes !we should
Otherwise it would go down as a regret,
But then,sometimes there do comes a point,
when you have to forget.
Well, i dont know how this post would go on, as this feeling is something, i cant express well in words.Its just a feel which comes to you only when you truly loves something/someone .But something doesn’t feel to be right.
And after a certain point of time you feel ,that the feeling of love is at its optimum level but still ,the pain is going on and on and on.
You would say that yes there is Pain in love,but something as beautiful as Love ,should be enlightening ,motivating and above else ,happy not depressing. But as human beings we have an old habit,of repenting,finding ourselves at guilt,and always looking at the half empty part of the glass.We just cant help it.Its like in our blood.
But then if something is as beautiful,then why to Let it Go????
Why not grab it ,with everything you have??
Well yes,you are right and we all do that , isn’t it.?? we all try to hold that thing/ person close to us,as tightly as we could, but still, when that point is reached , it starts to seep away.
The closer you try to get, the farer it tends to go. just like sand , water and air. the more we try to catch it in our hands, the more it seeps away.
But then the question arises, why???
if something was meant to Go, why had it came in the first place.??
they say that a dream is that thing, which cannot be broken easily….and if it does, it’s not a dream….then how could you say to let go of a dream….??
and how do you think that Letting it go would help??? atleast i have that thing/person , may be not entirely but still.
Well, yes you are right in many ways. and the questions arose, are totally relevant. Just the persepective has to be shifted by an inch or two, to get a clearer picture.
Before answering the three questions, i would like to share why its important. Why we all need to let it go sometimes, as you would only prefer to know the answers, after knowing ,why they are important.
Firstly and most importantly what does ” let it Go” actually means??? Well, it means what it means literally, just the context makes it a little more complicated along with many subtexts attached.
Does it just means to forget about everything ??? “Definitely not.”
Does it means to become ignorant about your feelings? “Exactly the opposite..”
or does it means acceptance and being observant of the things going inside???
” now we are getting somewhere”
Let us take some examples, to understand it…
How many of you have been involved in one sided Love????:P
Or in a relationship, where the better half just doesn’t feel better, no matter what you do??
Hehe, i know most of us. As when it comes to Love, we all have an instrument known as heart, which resonates on the tuning of ” l o v e “. . But, to each have its own standard tuning. Which causes a discord or in our terms one sided love or platonic relationship.
It becomes an open window, which swings by its pivot .When the wind open it for the beautiful sunlight to come in, we feel like we are in heaven, but when it gets shut, the suffocation snatches away whatever oxygen we have. And the coin of hope and pain keeps on swinging.
And what we do in such cases??? we either get possessive, get angry, take some foolish step(ahhh, don’t do such things), or keep on hurting us (or the other person too)in name of something which is so pure and so beautiful.,LOVE.
Love should not be like catching the bird you desire in a Cage, it’s like letting it go in the sky, and having the belief, that if this Love is meant to be, then someday, it will choose you and even if not, then your love is very happy in the sky, and you did what you could do best in that situation.
In the starting you may feel, that you have lost something, but in its true sense, you would get something.As the Love for the bird in a cage is not Love, it’s just like satisfying your ego.
So, look deep inside to find what it is. As we misunderstand many a things as love. in fact ” true love” 😛
and after finding out what it is, just do what is needed from your side. Just like it’s important to open the cage , before the bird could fly, the same way, it’s important to let your feelings come outside . Don’t trap them inside or it will rot you from inside. and it’s those feelings that we have to let go. The person might come along with them, just like the bird who chooses you instead of the sky, but even if its not, you would get free too.
And too all my friends who think we fall in love just one time, well if you are with that ” one”, then yes,,, but if you are not, then let that old feelings go, you would find Love again. Love is bound to develop when it is free, not when its trapped.
Now the second one,, your dream……
a dream that gets shatters easily is not a dream…..and friends this is true…. and sorry as if you are thinking of letting it Go,then either you are letting fear intervene, or it wasn’t your dream . you just thought it to be.
well if it’s the first case, and that is the only thing you ever wanted to do, then dont give up on it…. may be right now it would look appropriate, but later someday in your life, it would go down as a regret. and regrets are the worst thing that we would want to carry with us to our graves. And if you are at a position where an altercation , to give up or try one more time is going on, try one more time. As sometimes some things in life are just not meant to be, but then how could we know that??The only way to know that is by trying, by giving your best shot, giving everything you have. And if even then it doesn’t turns out, think again. I believe that if its truly your dream, you would enjoy even trying for that, and you would get it someday.
Failures are there just to make us realize, that what’s our particular dream is about. Whether it’s a particular destination we seek, or a journey we want to have. If it’s about the destination , it’s just God’s way of showing us a different path, but if it’s the journey, it’s just his way of telling us, to pack our bags, tighten our belts , and to go more higher, by trying more harder.
So whenever a dream fails, introspect of what you really want. What your heart is craving out for and not what your ego is seeking for….. As ego is like a greed which would never be satisfied, and heart is the need , that would make you feel gratified. So, think again, as after all, you are not the same person who had dreamt that first dream, and if you think you don’t enjoy it any more, then it’s better to let it Go. As you won’t be able to persist if you don’t love it. Again Love is the fuel that any big dream needs.
Decide what the problem is. if it’s the fear, then shove your leg in its ass, but if you don’t longer enjoy pursuing it…. it’s better to make a new dream and let the old one go. And yes this time, let your heart decide.
As Steve Jobs said-
“Our heart always knows, that the dots would connect somewhere in the future.”
and the Life is meant living only when you are Happy.
I think in these examples i have answered the last two questions.
but still the question remains, why it has come in the first place if we have to let it go ….????
ahmmm, when i was 4-5 years old , i fell from the stairs and my face smacked the floor. All of my incisors started wobbling and it pained like hell. I went to a dentist and he took out two of my incisors. I cried all night that I have lost my 2 teeth, ignorant to the fact, that they would have fallen anytime sooner or later.
To which my mom consoled me that they had come to make you ready for the permanent ones.
I questioned her, that why we don’t have the permanent ones from the starting.? to which she replied, that God wants us to learn the importance of the permanent ones by giving and then taking away the weaker temporary ones. And i think the same happens in the bigger context too..
If we shift our perception from the thing/ person to our self, we would notice a remarkable change in ourselves (our personality and thinking). And that is the purpose of the things/person that come and left us after sometime. To teach us, to grow us and to nurture us in a way….And as they have played their role, they were meant to play, in our lives, they just leave. Yes, sometimes just like that. And we have to deal with it, with a brave heart and unbreakable faith.
So, on this note i would like to conclude this post (already very long:P), and would ask you to introspect and free yourself from any feelings, that is cuffing your soul from inside. In short Let it Go, as a beautiful and happy life is waiting for you on the other side of the river, but the boat in between asks you to let those unhealthy, depressing, and trapped feelings Go.
“Just think about it………………… May god bless us all”:)